Dating an american institution
Solomon, Provo, UT : Association for Consumer Research, Pages: 521-527.Unlike before when I viewed dates and gift giving an investment, I was now making decisions about buying from my heart instead of my head. I bought her all kinds of things such as stuffed animals, clothing, and jewelry. Coon (1991) ,"Can't Buy Me Love: Dating, Money, and Gifts", in NA - Advances in Consumer Research Volume 18, eds. I had an overwhelming desire to shower the girl with gifts.In addition, a woman's home and schooling might limit her exposure to certain men. 163) reports a 19th century woman's derision of a neighbor's daughter whose marriage to an Army officer "was because her mother and brother never took the trouble to have a suitable home for her, and bring into it, the class of young men, whom after all they would have liked her to marry." -The home of a woman's family was both the meeting and screening ground for her future marriage prospects.
I don't know if you can possibly have one without the other [F 24]. Like they try to buy each other or show how much they love each other in how much money they spend on the gift to the other person [F26].Middle class calling rituals, calling cards, flowers, and other small courtship gifts became increasingly elaborated, common, and expensive during the Victorian era (Ames 1978).The cost of courtship also increased due to more commercial entertainments such as "Taking a train or streetcar to a nearby town to see a show, ride a carousel, or dance in a cabaret" (Rothman 1984, p. If men felt an increased economic burden in these rituals, women felt increasingly uneasy about the economic dependency that such gift-giving fostered (Lystra 1989, p. However, it was not until the emergence of dating during the 1920s that the cost and scale of interactions among unmarried men and women, especially those in college, made a quantum leap.I spent so much money on the girl that I had to quit school for a quarter and work full time. In America, money seems to have taken a big role in dating. Like the Beatles song, I believe strongly that "money can't buy me love".True love is developed through true friendship and trust, and generosity is only one of those features.... I guess I find it difficult to separate love from money.